Trusting yourself sounds like an easy job, but for many of us one bad decision after another for sometimes decades can leave you second guessing yourself, your gut feeling. Recently I have been learning more about the human mind and how and why it works in the ways it does, throughout this process I have really learned a lot about myself, how my brain stores and releases information, reasons why I make excuses and procrastinate on certain aspects of my life, how my past experiences lead me to the decisions I make today, why I am so hard on myself. I've learned a lot about behavior and how society and situations can change it. Where am I going with this you may ask? The more I learn about myself, the more things that become uncovered, more questions to be asked, and more soul searching to be done. Our mind is a miraculous chamber filled with unopened vaults of information on numerous subjects compiling together to allow us to be the people we are.
When you feel something a little off about yourself or the way things are going, many of us search for the answers, but surprisingly to some, you don't have to really dig that deep most of the time. Most of our judgements and assessments of situations happen in a split second, unconsciously. Also, a majority of the time our subconscious assessments are pretty accurate. This is why the need to trust yourself before you trust anyone else is imperative in order to live a happy and successful life. Usually when we put too much thought into a situation, we end up messing with the flow of life and that decision could have a tremendous impact on the next portion of our lives. If you have a "gut feeling," or if something keeps "speaking" to you, maybe you should listen to it. I've always never trusted myself up until recently and my stagnant position in life is a result of that. Now, if I feel like something comes up in my mind, or if I have a good/bad feeling about something, I tend to pay attention to it. I'm still stubborn and hardheaded, so I don't always listen or I'm too overcritical and think about it too much sometimes, but I now recognize that if something is making me feel a certain way, I should at least acknowledge it.
What I'm really trying to say is we really know ourselves and our surroundings better than we think we do. When that voice in your head or feeling in your soul tell you something, listen to it, sometimes some of the worst decisions we make are the ones that we ignore. Chase your dreams, apply for the job, ask the person on a date, just listen to yourself and most of all trust that you know deep down what you really want or desire. Don't let society or anyone else impact the way you feel about something. It took me 40 years to achieve some of the smallest and easiest goals in the world, due to not trusting in myself and believing in myself, don't make the same mistakes I did, live life to the fullest on your terms, just so that they are healthy, beneficial, and not self-harming choices. Until next time....
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